{How to Train a Flower Girl}

March 28th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

When our five-year-old daughter was asked to be a flower girl in her aunt’s wedding this past fall, we heard a lot of comments like: “How sweet, what a perfect age to be a flower girl.” And I tended to agree – at five, she was no longer a toddler or even an early preschooler, but not yet that snarky tween we’ve been reading so much about. Yet, I also knew it wasn’t going to go off without a hitch. While she loved talking about and planning for the big day, I had a feeling she would become reticent when she realized what the job actually entailed. Obviously no two children are alike, and there are plenty of precocious extroverts out there ready to saunter down that aisle with ease, but I’d argue that they are the exceptions. Most young girls in the flower girl-age category (about 3-7) will have and express fear about walking down the aisle.

Mary McHenry Photography{Photo: Mary McHenry}

Here are few ways to assuage that fear:

  • –Talk to her about the wedding months in advance. Explain and show her what a wedding ceremony will look like. Use picture books, movies, or even previously screened Youtube clips to give her an understanding of how it will all play out. Don’t wait until the rehearsal (unless you think this would work better for the child’s personality, of course).
  • –Next, after she begins to understand what the job entails – set up pretend wedding ceremonies, and allow her to practice. There’s nothing girls this age like more than to pretend and play make-believe. Let her use her dolls or other props to stand in for the bride and groom, and to “play” wedding. It can’t hurt…
  • –For the actual ceremony, allow her to walk down the aisle with someone else- her mother, father, an aunt or someone else in the wedding party with whom she feels comfortable, or how about the ring bearer? Makes for a very cute picture…
  • –Don’t force her to actually drop any petals. Simply walking down an aisle in front of a large crowd may be challenge enough. If she scoffs at the basket of petals, don’t push it.

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I’ve been to many a wedding in which all kind of deviances from the plan have taken place: the frozen flower girl, the giggly flower girl, the speedy flower girl, or the distracted flower girl, to name a few. As with all aspects of wedding planning, it’s best to be at least a little prepared that this small part of the day may not go exactly as planned. But then again, most of these unexpected (often adorable) moments are what people talk about over brunch the next morning. I remember one close friend’s wedding at the beach. There was the flower girl lying on her stomach drawing circles in the sand with a stick. It made for a gorgeous, innocent photo mainly because it was such a precious, spontaneous moment, and it didn’t take away from the ceremony. Everyone proceeded as planned rather than trying to usher the little girl away and put her back in her “place.” Sure, this might have worked so well since the backdrop was a beach – an innately relaxed locale, but I think the bride and groom’s relaxed attitude towards the children also helped to create a stress-free atmosphere.

Sitting Flower Girl{Photo: Clary Photo}

As for the reception – I suggest deciding on a departure time at the beginning of the night. We were fortunate enough to have a local sitter helping out. I highly recommend this. The party will most likely be at an unfamiliar location with a lot of strangers, and it was reassuring to know that we had an extra pair of eyes on her. We allowed our daughter to see the first dances, have her own fun dancing with the ring bearer, the bride and groom – and even sit in on some of the toasts. For most girls this age, this night will be full of many firsts and it was pure delight to watch the night unfold through her eyes. But all that is not to say that I was not relieved when 9:00 came and we kissed the little munchkin goodbye and goodnight.

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Liz Mathews is a Connecticut based mother, teacher, and freelance writer who blogs on children’s books and related topics at La La La (http://lalalaliz.com/). Her work has appeared in Quality Women’s FictionTown and Country magazine, and Literary Mama.

{@doielounge}

March 26th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Doie Lounge is now officially on Instagram! Follow us @doielounge for robes, weddings, fashion, and all things beautiful.

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{Interview with Sarah Worden}

March 22nd, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Sarah is a Connecticut native who traded the hustle and bustle of her media career in New York City for the pastoral Litchfield Hills. In 2009, she launched Sarah Worden Natural Design, which delivers one of a kind floral design and styling for weddings and special events throughout Connecticut. SWND is dedicated to promoting quality and sustainability through the use of local and seasonably available flowers by supporting local farms and vendors whenever possible. Sarah relishes small-town life in the country with her husband Nat and young sons, Gus and Sam.

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1) How do you promote both quality and sustainability in your role as a floral designer for weddings?

The goal is to use what is in bloom in your area to get closer to the source and minimize shipping from around the world. Sometimes flowers that you see in the supermarket or florist have been half way around the world and alive for well over a week before they get there! Like with food, if you know where your flowers are coming from, you know more about their overall quality. Not to say that gorgeous flowers cannot be purchased from Africa or South America (they certainly can!) but it’s a nice thing to at least be aware of a flower’s source both for environmental reasons, to support your local economy, and because local often means the best quality — which means it holds up and looks the best! Not everyone feels this way but there’s something odd to me about a backyard wedding at a colonial home in Connecticut strewn with orchids and exotic plants; it doesn’t fit.

Also worth noting is that there is a wave of young and savvy farmers across the country who are working hard to improve their land and communities by investing in growing [often organic] food for restaurants and flowers for the trade. I like to try to support these people because they are my friends and neighbors here in rural Connecticut. I even get to send a list of what flowers I would like to see, and if I’m lucky, they appear in one of my weddings the next year!

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2) Explain how seasonal flower arrangements are different. Which flowers complement each season?

Again, seasonal flower arrangements really means paying attention to selecting flowers based on your location and event date. The most well known flowers for spring are bulbs like tulips, hyacinth and allium. And peonies of course, everyone’s favorite! Ranunculus has become very popular (a greenhouse grown plant that is imported, at least here in New England). Astilbe has also emerged as a popular accent flower in the last couple years. My favorite option for spring is to try to integrate local foliage into your overall design by incorporating spring blossoms (cherry/apple/quince/dogwood) and shrubs like viburnum and lilac.

Summer tends to have a lot of options as far as cut garden flowers, wildflowers, and herbs. The list is endless but the most popular tend to be hydrangea, garden roses, and some of the rustic textured accent flowers like queen anne’s lace, crespedia, and eryngium thistle. I love to incorporate all types of herbs, and even fruiting berries and their foliage like raspberry and blackberry in late Summer.

Late Summer and Fall is known for dahlias, sunflowers and fabulous grasses, berries and foliage.  There are many bright, jewel-type colors available in the autumn months like celosia and amaranthus. The cabbage flower, a smaller, stalked version of the ornamental cabbage you see at nurseries, has become quite popular in the flower trade and really mimics a large rose or peony.

Winter is all about branches, rustic greens, and berries. In New England especially, we have to get creative in the winter, as there is little to choose from — gold and silver accents and candlelight! I like to import lush flowers in deep colors and mix them with local pine and hemlock.

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3) What are the current trends (if any) with flowers? Any particular colors? Or add-ons, like feather, cottons, wheat for example?

The trend over the last couple years is natural, loose wild-looking arrangements incorporating large, petally flowers with more rustic accents and lush foliage. The bouquets are all of a sudden getting much bigger this year when they have been smaller in the recent past.  Colors go in and out of fashion but gray is a major accent again this year.  Pale, blush colors tend to be very popular for weddings but we are seeing a lot of bold pops of color this year like orange/coral and deep plum/burgundy. The black-centered anemone if very hot, as is clematis and other vining flowers like jasmine, but can also be very pricey!

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4) Do arrangements every mimic or mirror any pop culture trends like say, “Downton Abbey”, for example?

Yes, I think cultural trends in film and art world certainly inform wedding design and specifically flower trends. The Great Gatsby and “Downton Abbey” were both referenced a lot last year.  I think the economy plays a part as well.  For example, a couple years ago it was all about mason jars and simple, rustic elegance. Now the economy is picking up and you are seeing bigger, more elaborate arrangements and more flash, like gold accents and metallics of all kinds.  Bronze, brass and copper vases are becoming fashionable again both for formal and informal weddings. The overall table design and container options are obviously closely influenced by fashion and interior design trends.

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5) Where do you go to get inspiration, professional development or community within your field?

The wedding industry is a huge but also niche business of professionals of all kinds — bakers, stylists, florists, make-up artists, caterers, photographers, lighting experts, and so on.  Blogs are HUGE for the wedding business and the professionals within the field follow them as closely as our clients do. Pinterest is a very popular tool for floral designers to communicate with their clients and also stay up on wedding trends and the business at large. For example, I follow a select group of other floral designers on Pinterest and Instagram and I’m always inspired by their work! Most of them are obsessed with flowers like I am so we get really nerdy posting photos and talking about detailed flower stuff that most people wouldn’t really be interested in.

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6) In which ways are flowers be using differently in weddings these days? Do you see unique ideas based off of, say, Pinterest pin boards or other web-based communities?  

I suspect much of what is popular for flowers in weddings circles back over time like fashion does. So I’m not sure if these ideas are entirely new but people are using flowers in all sorts of exciting ways these days — and yes, the wedding blogs and Pinterest have played a large role in helping to circulate a lot of these ideas.  Floral crowns are very popular right now. Clients are getting all sorts of interesting ideas for their escort cards and often want to display them on an elaborate table presentation that involves flowers and props.  Table numbers, dessert tables, lounge areas and ceremonies of course are all areas where floral and styling elements factor in in a big way.  Floral designers often play an instrumental role in and often even design and execute the entire look of the ceremony, the escort card presentation, and so on.  For example, in my own business, I rent antique prop pieces and a couple alters and chuppahs I have built from natural materials. I even rented a client my father’s vintage ford truck last year and decorated the back with flowers!

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Liz Mathews is a Connecticut based mother, teacher, and freelance writer who blogs on children’s books and related topics at La La La (http://lalalaliz.com/). Her work has appeared in Quality Women’s FictionTown and Country magazine, and Literary Mama.

{Spring 2014 Photoshoot}

March 20th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Happy first day of Spring!

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One of my favorite parts about being a designer is the photo shoots! I just love seeing the designs “come to life” on the models. This particular shoot was challenging as we did not plan for the fog to roll in (which rarely happens in Los Angeles!). In the end though, the fog made for some interesting and beautiful photos.

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It also helps to have a “dream team” to work with on the shoots. Luckily for me, we had Valorie Darling for photography, Trace Henningsen for hair, Belinda of Parasol of Design, for make-up, and the lovely Marlana Carter and Rachel O’Brien for models.

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These are only a few of the many photos that were taken that day, but you can see more, plus some “behind the scenes” photos in this little video that you can watch here.

{Choosing A Bridesmaid}

March 8th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Among the many details that a lot of women consider way before becoming engaged is who we will have stand beside us at our wedding. Choosing someone to be your bridesmaid forever cements her into your history. Even if you lose touch with this person, she will be always appear in the photos from your special day. I’m always curious about the one or two faces in my parents’ wedding album that I don’t recognize. “What happened to her?” I ask of the woman with the blond beehive hairdo.  “Why did you two fall out of touch?” My mother’s answers are not often sentimental. So much more of life has happened in between. But there she is standing besides my mom in a lime green shift dress.

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Sure, we often include siblings, cousins, and old friends – people who have and will be in our lives most likely forever. But there’s always that small chance of growing apart. So your choices are always a little bit of a gamble. Some find these decisions easier to make than others; if you have, for instance, three sisters, two sister-in-laws and one clear best friend, you already have a solid wedding party. According to Emily Post, four to six bridesmaids is the average for a formal or semiformal wedding – though in my experience, many people choose even larger parties – (twelve in my case, yikes!).

So how do we choose? If you account for at least one sister or sister-in-law, and maybe a close cousin or two, you realistically only have a few spots left. Let’s say one or two more spots go to old high school or college friend, then one or two more to your close work friends – the ones you spent hours talking to during the time leading up to your engagement, then there are the anomalies – possibly the friend who introduced you to your husband? You’re not necessarily the closest to her – in fact, maybe she is closer with your husband, but how can you not include her? In some cases, this person is asked to be a reader. And, don’t forget about those people who have asked you to be in their weddings. How do you handle that? It can be tricky and a bit awkward. Of course you are not obliged to do the same, but you have to be prepared for how to address it if it ever comes up. And what about step-siblings? What if your parents divorced when you were young and you’ve grown up with these people basically your whole life? If you account for all of them, you may not have any room for friends, so perhaps it’s best not to include any of them.

Art Deco Bridesmaids{Via}

This little exercise is just to illustrate that this is not an easy process; it’s one that most likely takes careful attention and consideration. Logistically speaking, it’s a good idea to keep in mind how you want your bridesmaids to be a part of both your engagement and your wedding day. These are things I did not necessarily think through when I was chose to have twelve bridesmaids, but are good to keep in mind as you make your decisions:

  • –What kind of a bachelorette party do you want, if any? Bridesmaids are usually included and often even plan this party. If you want a small, intimate gathering, you may want to keep your wedding party on the smaller side.
  • –Brides often show their gratitude to their bridesmaids by bestowing a small gift the day of the wedding. While this is by no means a requirement or even an expected exchange, it is a common practice. Keep this gift in the back of your mind when deciding how large your wedding party will be if you are working within a budget. It has also become customary to host a bridesmaid tea or luncheon the weekend of the wedding. This is often when brides and their wedding party exchange gifts.
  • –Don’t underestimate the cost of being in a wedding. If you are selecting the bridesmaid dresses (as most brides do), your bridesmaids will be responsible for paying for: these dresses, their travel, lodging (though Emily Post maintains this part is the bride’s responsibility), wedding gift, possibly also contributing to joint gift to the bride, as well as possibly using up some of their vacation days. It all starts to add up. You obviously don’t want to exclude someone because you don’t think she can afford it, so if you can, you may want to contribute to some of these expenses. If not, try not to choose an unreasonably priced dress or a faraway, expensive location.
  • –How do you want your bridesmaids to be involved on the day of the actual wedding? Duties include but are not limited to: checking in with the bride to see if she needs anything like a drink, some lipstick or trips to the ladies’ room. During the ceremony and reception they often help pass out the programs, ask guests to sign the guest book, and encourage everyone to dance. Think about friends who have your best interest at heart. Include people who, while they are there to have fun and celebrate, will also work with you to make the weekend an enjoyable experience for everyone.
  • –Bridesmaids are also often present while a bride is getting ready. Here is where I underestimated the size of my wedding party. While I wouldn’t take any of it back, I might have asked for just my sister and my sister-in-law to be present during this part of the day. It was very hectic in there with nearly twenty people in the room!

 

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For some, the task of making these decisions becomes difficult to the point that a bride would rather not have a wedding party than unnecessarily hurt someone’s feelings. We’ve all heard or possibly been a part of a story that includes a scorn bridesmaid. Or perhaps even the choice of who becomes maid of honor when a sibling is not an obvious choice. But that’s a whole different post…

Be prepared for the unexpected and remember that everyone else’s lives are still happening as you plan your wedding.

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Liz Mathews is a Connecticut based mother, teacher, and freelance writer who blogs on children’s books and related topics at La La La (http://lalalaliz.com/). Her work has appeared in Quarterly Women’s FictionTown and Country magazine, and is forthcoming in Literary Mama.

 

{Blushing Bride}

March 4th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

I know that “Radiant Orchid” is Pantone’s color of the year, but I’m having a major “blush” moment and it turns out, I am not alone. When asked what color you would like to see in a future Doie Lounge robe style, an overwhelming number of you said “blush.”

With this in mind, we created the “Betty” robe– blush and white (swatch below). This robe will debut in April!

Betty Swatch Doie LoungeBelow is some other beautiful blush inspiration from around the web.

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xx Sara

{Doie Goes Hollywood}

March 2nd, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Happy 86th Academy Awards Day! The “Bling Ring” was not nominated for an Oscar, but I would like to nominate Leslie Mann as “Best Dressed” in her Doie Lounge robe.

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xx Sara

{A Very Pinterest Wedding}

February 26th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Brides and grooms today are lucky. It used to be that you’d pick up a few magazines at the corner store and dog-ear the pages with your favorite dress, cake, flower arrangement or potential location. Sure, as the wedding industry grew, so did the coverage of the details in these magazines. But today it’s as easy as typing “wedding” into the Pinterest search box and bam, there are all of the details you’d need to create a fabulous wedding, along with many subtle points that you may not have even considered. Gone are the days of lugging around the oversized three-ring notebook; now brides and grooms have a virtual space to gather all of their ideas and to arrange them in relevant categories.

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It’s hard to believe that the site was launched just four years ago, but in case you’ve been living under a rock or you’re one of those technically-challenged people, here’s the way it works: users save images, which are called pins (as in an old-fashion pin-board) on to virtual boards that can be sorted and organized based on their needs. Pins are collected through three basic channels 1) by browsing the home page to see what their “friends” or those users whose boards they follow have pinned, or 2) by “pinning” images from elsewhere on the internet by clicking on a “pin it” button, or 3) by doing a blind search on the homepage, using key words or clicking on topic like Art, Gardening or Sports, just to name a few.

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While perusing images for ideas for how to wear your hair or bridesmaid gift options, you’ll also be confronted with pins of “Ways to make your wedding so much easier,” “Cute ideas for a Kids’ table,” or “Questions to ask my wedding photographer.” There are also things like clever ways to name your tables and alternative ideas for the traditional guest book. I could go on and on – and you could keep on scrolling down and down. I’m sure it’s overwhelming and too much for some reticent brides, but for those who crave information, Pinterest is a goldmine and such an invaluable resource.

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When I asked our old babysitter, who is recently engaged, how she is planning for her wedding, she had this to say: “I haven’t really used any wedding magazines actually…maybe I will at some point, but Pinterest and wedding blogs are so easy.” She explained how she initially used the site to search for wedding dresses, then once she chose her colors she did some research to see how other people put the colors together visually – particularly for seeing combinations of bridesmaid dress colors, flowers and groomsmen suit colors, and eventually flower arrangements and centerpieces. She even found a few photos from real weddings with the combinations she was envisioning so she could see it all together. Lucky girl.

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On a nuanced level, a resource like Pinterest provides couples, who may not want to have a traditional wedding, with so many different options. Just type in “bohemian bride” or “adventurous wedding” and you’re confronted with so many visuals that prove some of your own ideas are not too outlandish or attainable. In fact, I envy people out there in the throes of weddings right now. It seems easier than ever to express your creativity or individuality (or both!) through your own wedding, as a member of the wedding, or even as a wedding guest.

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In talking with a local wedding florist, she shared that Pinterest has been invaluable in giving her a better understanding of her clients’ needs. While in the past, a bride may have had trouble describing the style she envisioned for her wedding flowers, now she can create a board for her florist to see exactly what she wants. Recently, Pinterest has allowed for the use of up to three secret boards so that the wedding and all of the details do not have to be revealed ahead of time to any guests who may be checking out the bride’s boards.

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Some of you savvier Pinterest users probably already follow a number of genre-specific users like the Ruffled Blog that features boards for Wedding Whimsy, for example, that just feed your imagination with ideas to inspire your own wedding. The possibilities are truly endless. Style Me Pretty features helpful boards like Wedding Signs; Doie Lounge has a board with over 100 pins for a Bohemian Chic Wedding as well as boards exclusively for Industrial Brides and Mountain Brides. You’d really be hard-pressed to have an uninspired wedding with a resource like this at your fingertips. For those who have already walked down the aisle, browsing wedding boards on Pinterest makes you want to do it all over again.

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Liz Mathews is a Connecticut based mother, teacher, and freelance writer who blogs on children’s books and related topics at La La La (http://lalalaliz.com/). Her work has appeared in Quality Women’s FictionTown and Country magazine, and Literary Mama.

{Vintage Valentine’s Roadtrip}

February 14th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Happy Valentine’s Day! Wishing love to everyone today.

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Photography: Valorie Darling Photography, Hair: Trace Henningsen, Make-up: Parasol of Design

xx Sara

{Ceremony Magazine}

February 13th, 2014 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Hooray– the new editions of Ceremony Magazine are now out! This gorgeous bridal magazine is one of my all time favorites. Filled with so many beautiful ideas, these location specific guides make wedding planning easy (er…easier).

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Doie Lounge is featured in both the San Francisco and Orange County editions! I can’t stop thumbing through these magazines– they feel more like books, and it’s easy to get lost for an hour or two daydreaming about planning the perfect event.

CeremonyMagazine-OC14-page034Ceremony magazine is a great resource for finding vendors in California and a good “jumping off” point for novel ideas and current trends. Their blog offers up to date information about wedding shows as well as glimpses of “real weddings.”

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