{Guest Blogger} Picking Your Bridesmaids

June 18th, 2013 | Posted by skirsner in Uncategorized

So, you’re getting married! After the initial excitement of your new engagement dies down, you will realize that you now have a million decisions to make– the date, the dress, the venue, the guests, and of course, the bridesmaids.


Selecting the women to support you through your wedding won’t be an easy decision. You want to choose friends who will appreciate the job that they have been given to do, and hope that those you don’t choose aren’t offended by your choices. Before you make that final list, we have a list of facts to consider that should help you to choose the ladies in your life that will help to make your wedding experience as stress free as possible. 

Budget is one of the biggest considerations you must make when choosing your bridesmaids. It’s such a depressing word, but you need to know how many bridesmaids you can afford to provide with bridal party gifts and pay for at the rehearsal dinner. You also have to consider their budgets. It wouldn’t be fair to ask your friend who might be a stay-at-home mom to four kids to fork out hundreds of dollars as your bridesmaid. 


Even though you’re the one who has to spend time with all your bridesmaids, you should ask your husband-to-be if there is a particularly important woman in his life he wants you to include. This is a great opportunity for you to make friends with your fiancées female friends and family, and they will appreciate being asked to be involved. And your Groom will love you all the more for being so considerate!

You might feel pressured to choose friends that you have known the longest to be bridesmaids for your big day. You may have talked about your wedding with your best friend since you were teenagers, but if she now lives across the other side of the world and you haven’t seen her in years, you shouldn’t feel obligated to ask her to be involved. If you’ve become very close to a woman you’ve only known for a short period of time and you value her friendship, don’t be afraid to ask her to be one of your bridesmaids. It’s more than likely that she’ll be thrilled, and hugely honored to be asked to be a part of your wedding day. 

{Ryan Phillips Photography}

Your friend’s personalities are something you have to consider before asking them to be a bridesmaid. Planning weddings are stressful enough without having to deal with a friend who will never be content with your dress choices for her. Additionally, if you know a couple of your friends who don’t get along, you might want to consider whether to include them in your bridesmaid party. The last thing you want is to see your friends arguing and bickering at your showers, bachelorette parties, and wedding events.

Your maid of honor is the most important woman in your bridal party. This friend will need to support you through all of the emotions you will experience before, during and after your wedding day. She will need to be reliable and organized, and will need to know you well enough to organize a bachelorette party that you, and each of your bridesmaids will enjoy. It’s a big job, and will involve a lot of commitment from your chosen friend. Make sure you have a discussion with your potential maid of honor about the duties she might have to take on before assigning her the job.

{Eric Kelly Photography}

Don’t let your future mother-in-law pressure you into asking her new boyfriend’s granddaughter to be involved, and try not to give yourself any extra stress by worrying about other people’s opinions. The people who know you best will respect your choices. The most important thing to remember is that this day is all about you and your future husband.


Claire writes for Bachelorette Event Organizers Gobananas in the UK


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  • Jen Mulberg says:

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